It angers me. I read a lot as a writer and professor and I see it all the time. People dehumanizing people with their words.
“A woman that ….
.. and so on ad infinitum.
I am no grammar nazi but… a person is a “who” not a “that!”
This is more than a question of grammar; it is an issue of how we think about ourselves and fellow human beings.
Correct thinking and grammar include sentences like:
A woman is not a potato. A man is not a shirt. Voters are not lizards. People are not objects. People are people. When you call a person a “that,” you are unconsciously dehumanizing them and yourself.
You may say that this is a small matter and that I am being nit picky, but little things like this add up and make a difference. How we express ourselves and how we hear how others refer to us have effects. Words matter. Are you referring to people or not?